Judgement Girl Strikes Again!

Ok, we are all judgemental . . . But, being from the East Coast and getting older, and spending too much of my early life with all my gay boyfriends, I'm pretty bad . . .

I had a blind date last night. Before I go on - Life Lesson to everyone, but especially females - I've always done this and I highly recommend it, if you don't - get as much information as you can on the person you'll be seeing and write it down or e-mail it to your best friend for safe keeping in case your body turns up on the side of the road. Yes, it's dramatic, but it's also practical. And, if at all possible, meet at the place/take separate vehicles and go somewhere like a restaurant/populated place.

Okay, so I had a blind date - met him on online - seemed nice, but seriously cannot spell. Which, I admit, as an English Lit. girl, is a problem.

Another side note - when I was in high school - I dated this cute, good ol' boy - J.R. - who was incredibly illiterate. This poor, sweet boy - I used to give him a spelling list each week with new words! And I used to circle his letters and notes in red ink! Yeah, I was exactly the word you're thinking. And he put up with it! He was really sweet - so some day, if ever I see him, I'll offer him my apologies.

Back to last night - Blind Date Guy showed up with a beautiful bouquet of mixed flowers (not from a grocery story and they smelled incredible). He also smelled quite nice. Appearance wise - eh - not my type, but then I'm no great shakes, so who am I to . . . judge? ^_^ He made lots of brownie points tho'. He opened his car door for me to get in and get out and opened the restaurant door. Very well done. We went to this Mexican place that was okay. I like Tex-mex and I'd never been to this particular place, so I didn't mind.

Side note - some of the worst eateries for first dates - BBQ, Mexican, Thai, Indian or Sushi (unless you are absolutely sure your date loves/can handle it). But, any place where you're prolly going to use your hands/get food in your teeth - not on a first date - kills the coolness factor. Oh, and any place where you're bound to get gas. Unless you really want to not date the person again.

Back to date - non-stop convo - I admit he was charming in that good ol' boy way J.R. was from high school - he also had beautiful blue eyes (J.R and this guy). And he had hair. I'm a girl who likes guys with hair on their heads. So, plusses all around. He talked about himself while I ate my enchilada and rice. Okay, he didn't ask about me, but I figured he was probably nervous (I was). And he wasn't arrogant, just sweet and sort've funny. I can babble on when I'm nervous, so no judgement.

In his car, he popped in a Carpenter's CD (I love the Carpenters) and we drove to this dark park to hang. It was bitterly cold, but I loved it - fresh air, stars to see forever in the night sky. He also grabbed a jacket from his car and put it around my shoulders (the boy had it going for being a gentleman). Finally, even the cold got to me, so we sat in his car and chatted. My friend who I had given her the heads up on with regards to this date phoned to follow up. I love her for it, because I was supposed to phone earlier with more information, but there was no cool way to do it. So, I love her for following up.

Side note - hang on to your friends - you never know when you'll need them. I've lost friends for the stupidest reasons - something I'll write about. Friends are a treasure and one should never throw them away because of a bad day or one disagreement. But then if someone does, they really weren't your friend in the truest sense.

So - we chatted about all kinds of things. The only thing I wasn't crazy about - he kept complimenting me. Not to judge, but I'm leery of folks who compliment on a first meet. When you get to know me - by all means, tell me how wonderful I am. ^__^ But, strangers who compliment? Eh. Well, okay, when I did theater, I lived off strangers' compliments, but I wasn't performing last night. Maybe a little - after all I was trying to make a good impression. I didn't want to be judged. So, early date - he was going out of town to see family, he claimed, but he saw me to my door and gave me a quick kiss. And then e-mailed me as a follow up. So all in all, it was a nicer evening than I was expecting, based on my judgement.